You don’t appear to possess goals that are clear from what you truly desire. Can it be some one you may get along with on nights out, weekend dates, plus in bed? Since you’ve got that. Or do you really need him become an entirely trustworthy buddy, who can confide their tips for you, or conduct their affairs with other people in a available, ethical method?
Because that final one sounds like either good buddy — that you simply don’t take time to actually make, we suspect — or a person who is polyamorous / ethically non-monogamous, who may have taken enough time and energy had a need to think of these sorts of things.
If having someone fun you can frolic on the full evenings and weekends with is most significant, keep seeing him. But just just take 100% obligation for your security, he is doing on the side because you don’t know what or who. In the event that you absolutely need a friend it is possible to trust, the next occasion form a no-strings relationship just when you understand a whole lot more about their life. If you’d like a person who is ethical inside their behavior that is non-monogamous reading “The Ethical Slut”, or likely to a polyamory meetup in your area.